The comparison culture that we live in is robbing us of the lane that we were designed for. What do i mean? We are all trying to be in the same lane – look the same – drive the same – do business the same. The disease of comparison is the root of unhappiness. You were designed to be uniquely you.
When you act like someone else – you are not operating our of the authentic person that you are so you will not be in harmony with God or yourself. The bible tells us to not seek to be like the world – it also tells us we were unique and wonderfully made for a specific purpose.
Imagine that I tiger really liked all the attention that a hippo received and wanted to look and be just like the hippo – denying the natural gifts it was given – ridiculous right? But that is the very thing we do!
So how do we know who we really are and how do we act our of our authentic self?
1. BE YOU:
Be you with all of your strengths and weaknesses. We were not created for perfection, but to be exactly who were are called to be. If you have been imitating and trying to copy others for a long time, this might be a difficult step! List all of your strengths – all the things that your closest friends and relatives like about you – the things that make people smile and feel loved. If you do not know what those are….ask (the people who love you!)
2. Be GRATEFUL
Those who understand who they are and are okay and actually enjoy who they are start to notice the beauty in the differences between people. The world becomes bringer and more vibrant!! Instead of comparing – being the authentic you allows you to let others be their authentic them. You will begin to be grateful for those things that you are not in other people. No longer will you want to be “better than them” but you will be grateful for the things that they bring to the party!!! Make a list of all the blessings in your life – all the gifts from the people around you and all the things that you took for grated in search of being like everyone else – WRITE THEM DOWN and keep a running list going! You will see how being authentically you and not someone else and then being grateful opens the gates to fulfillment and happiness in ways never imagined!
3. GIVE IT AWAY
Once you are comfortable in your lane – and grateful that others are staying in their lane and for all the blessings that have come your way because you are uniquely designed with a purpose – the next step to becoming the authentic you is to GIVE IT AWAY!! What do i mean by that??
God told us there were 2 really important things to remember and obey – to LOVE GOD with all we are and also TO LOVE OTHERS AS OURSELVES! In order to love others well – you need to give part of your giftedness, your love, your wisdom, your best recipes, your compassion – how every you are authentically designed…..GIVE THAT AWAY EVERY DAY! The world tells us to hold on to everything and never give a person an edge over us! That is the road paved to unhappiness and lack of fulfillment and contentment! WHY? We get back double when we give away the thing that we are good at. It is the idea of abundance that the current culture is buzzing about – however- God told us this already when He says give and it will be given to you pressed down and overflowing so much that you cannot handle the joy!!
So BE YOU – BE GREATFUL – AND GIVE IT AWAY!!
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Until Next Time –
Be Blesses and Be you!
Dr Shannon Irvine